If you’re struggling with difficult feelings or experiences counselling can help you to explore your hopes, fears, relationships and choices and enable you to consider the options available to you. At a time when you might be feeling lost and nothing seems clear, counselling offers you a safe space and a time to feel really listened to, understood and accepted.
Counselling falls under the umbrella term ‘talking therapies’. It allows people to discuss their problems and any difficult feelings they encounter in a safe, confidential environment. Counselling is a process people seek when they want to change something in their lives or simply explore their thoughts and feelings in more depth.
How is counselling different to talking to friends or family?
Talking to a counsellor can be helpful as they have no preconceived perceptions of you, no prior connection to your life and are not there to sit you down and tell you what to do. Instead, the process allows you to talk about what’s bothering you in order to uncover any root causes and identify your specific ways of thinking to help you reconcile your issues or help you to find ways of coping.
Everyone has thoughts and questions that are difficult to talk about but in the safety and confidentiality of the counselling room you can explore them with no judgement from the person sitting with you. As a trained professional I can help you uncover your own insight and an understanding of your problems, providing you with the tools to help you to resolve them.
What can counselling help with?
Counselling can help with difficult experiences or feelings you may be experiencing, such as:
- Feelings of loneliness, sadness, anxiety, worry, depression
- Being unable to form or maintain intimate relationships
- Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, feeling worthless
- Difficulty with family, friends or colleagues
- Professional or career challenges
- A sense that life itself no longer seems fulfilling
- Experience of grief, loss and separation
- Experience of abuse / trauma
- Rape, sexual violence, child sexual abuse
- Addiction issues
- Anger management issues
- Issues relating to gender identity or sexuality
I provide counselling from my comfortable and discreet consulting room in the leafy suburb of Jesmond, just outside Newcastle upon Tyne.
Free on-street parking is available nearby and my practice is a short walk from a nearby Metro station. When you book your first appointment I will provide you with the full address and a map with directions.
My room isn’t fully accessible but if you have mobility considerations please do let me know and I can arrange for alternative access that is largely on flat ground and I will be happy to discuss what other access arrangements I might be able to put in place for you.
What happens in the first session?
During your first session we will take time to discuss the reasons you’re considering counselling and I will ask you some questions so I can understand your background and circumstances. It’s also an opportunity for you to ask me questions about anything you’d like to know, such as counselling in general, my approach, or anything else that might help you decide if I’m the right counsellor for you. If you decide you’d like to have further sessions we then discuss the best way to proceed, including the goals you’d like to work towards and when and how often we should meet – it’s usual to have one session a week, though sometimes more or less often might be appropriate.
How long does counselling take?
There’s no simple way to answer this question due to the many different reasons that bring people to counselling. Some people find a few sessions helpful and others may have sessions for several weeks or months. Where people want to undertake psychotherapy to address deeper issues, they may stay in therapy for a longer period of time.
At your first session we will discuss what time-scale may be appropriate for you and throughout the sessions we will regularly discuss how your counselling is progressing and check that the work is focussing on your goals. By continuing to evaluate the process of your counselling over time, we can ensure it is a focused and ongoing collaboration between me as therapist and you as the person seeking my professional guidance.